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Psychosocial Needs of the Dying Child

The child with a terminal illness has the same need for love, emotional support, and normal activities as any person facing death. Love, respect, and dignity are all important factors in caring for a dying child. The following psychosocial needs of the dying child should be considered:

  • Time to be a child
    Engage in age-appropriate activities for children, such as age-appropriate play.
  • Communication/listening/expression of fears or anger
    The child should have someone they can talk to about his/her fears, joys, angers, or to simply talk about the weather. Being alone at the time of death is a common fear for dying children. Listening to them is the most important way to help. Accepting that the child does not want to talk about dying is also important; the parent's needs are often greater and they should seek out someone they can talk to. If "big" issues are not discussed, we should never underestimate the importance of a non-judgmental and caring presence.
  • Depression and withdrawal
    Independence and control need to be given to the dying teenager whenever possible. Many physical changes that occur before death can make the child very dependent for even simple tasks. Loss of control and depression may cause withdrawal. It is important to validate these feelings without forcing communication.
  • Spiritual needs
    Spiritual and cultural needs should be respected and provided for. Rituals which allow the child and his/her family to remember; give thanks and express gratitude; trust God's presence in the experience for both the child who is dying and those who will grieve; and say goodbye are each ways to honor the transition from getting well to letting go or dying. What and how much to tell a child is dependent upon the culture and ethnic background of the family.
  • Wish fulfillment
    Some organizations provide funding for a "wish" for seriously and/or terminally ill children. If possible, help the child decide what they would most like to do before they die. A shopping spree, Disney World, a new computer, or meeting a famous star are examples of children's "wishes." If the child is able to actively participate, all measures should be provided for them. These wishes often create wonderful memories for families of children with a terminal illness.
  • Permission from loved ones to die
    Some children seem to require "permission" to die. Many children fear their death will hurt their parents and leaving them behind will make them very sad. It has been observed that children will cling to life through pain and suffering until they get "permission" from their parents to die. This has been described in the dying adult, as well. Sometimes, parents are not always the best persons to give this permission. Someone close to both the parents and the child may be more appropriate.
  • Comfort in knowing they are not alone in the dying process
    The dying child most often wants reassurance that they will not die alone and that the/she will be missed. Parents and loved ones need to comfort the child and tell him/her that, when death occurs, they will be right at the bedside. This is often a difficult promise to keep, but every measure should be made to be holding or touching the child when he/she dies. The presence at death benefits both caregivers and the child.
  • Limit setting
    Parents need to continue setting appropriate limits on a child's behavior and not let their guilt or grief inhibit their normal parenting, the consequence of which can be children becoming or feeling out of control.

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